To the woman who kissed my father:

Dear Bethany,

I've never met you, and I hope I never get that displeasure. I don't know if my father ever told you about me, but from the screencaptures of the iMessages between you and my dear old pops, you knew about my 10 year old step brother. And if you knew about him, you knew about my step mom. 

Affairs happen. I'm not an idiot. It's almost a part of our adult culture to take what we want, whether we are in relationships with other people. I don't know the whole story. I know that I have suspected my father of cheating for almost a year and a half. When I confronted him, he accused my mother of setting him up, trying to ruin his relationship with Tina, his fiancée, in case you forgot he was engaged and their 5 year anniversary was coming up. I had all the evidence. I needed to go in the old family email and saw all these emails from a dating website called "untrue". Of course I did a search by sender, and found all the emails. And want to know where that registration email was kept? In his personal folder. If my mother had tried to set him up, why would he put the registration email for a dating website revolving around affairs in his personal folder? 

I also know that he lied to me yesterday. He lied about you to protect himself. Bethany - my father told me that you came onto him and kissed him. And that it was just that. A kiss. It could be true, expect all last week he was coming home late. Around 1, 2 am. I had called him early on in the week, and he had told me is was "working" and would be working late. And I believed him. 

Why would you think that these actions were okay? Who the hell do you think you are is more of my main concern. We were a family, you know. Before Tina came in the picture, we were broken. The divorce had ripped us all apart. But she put us back together. And of course there were times when I would butt heads with her, but that woman is more of a woman than you ever will be. She is true to herself, she is independent, she is loving, she works hard, and she is one of the most giving people to ever be a part of my life. There would be times where we couldn't stand each other and she would still help me if I needed help. When my body was shutting down when I had a staph infection, and I couldn't afford my antibiotics, pain killers, and bandages to wrap up my knee, she paid for everything! And even after she saw the messages between you two and heard my father's lies, she still told me and my brother that she loved us, and if we need anything, all we have to do is text or call her and she will be there for us. Her sister and brother-in-law also reached out to us. Those are good people. Those are people who love their family, They don't destroy families. They don't ruin lives or relationships.

I don't date much. I don't have a boyfriend. But I still know the basic human rules of dating. And the first damn rule is don't go after someone who is taken, even if they go after you. I couldn't care less if they're what you want. You don't do that.

Listen, Bethany. I don't know who is more at fault here. You or my father. I am so upset and angry that I can't tell. But honestly, you both are equally to blame in my eyes. He shouldn't have been looking. He shouldn't have acted on anything. But neither should you. You shouldn't have accepted any advances. You knew. You. Knew. You shouldn't have advanced on him.

And if you two do pursue this: once a cheater, always a cheater. Remember that.

xoxo, Samantha.